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Being Bettina’s Dad – What Bettina taught me when supporting a person

A question I am often asked since leaving the Army to support people with learning disabilities has been, “I suppose getting involved in this work has helped you support your daughter, Bettina with her care?” I remember being asked this question by a fellow Area Manager when we met up for lunch some years ago. I found myself saying, “Actually it is the other way around.”

Being Bettina’s Dad and being married to Bettina’s Whisperer

In the late 1980s, Autism was not as well known or shared as it is today. When it came to explaining the condition Bettina was coping with to family and friends, we often resorted to asking if they had seen ‘Rain Man’, a ground breaking film at the time with Dustin Hoffman.

Being Bettina’s Dad: Bettina transforming my life with mindfulness

So many people who have been part of Bettina’s life have described the effect she has had on them just by being in her presence, so it isn’t just her proud parents who feel this way. We have described her as being “spiritual” without coming up with a profound understanding of what this means and what it is that she gives out. Until now!

Being Bettina’s Mum & Dad: Discovery & Endurance

For Steve and me, it has been good to revisit some of the earlier days with Bettina, especially as time goes by so quickly you tend to forget some of the achievements and some of the forks in the road you have to take.

Being Bettina’s Mum and Dad: A Christmas Tale

Bettina is absolutely mesmerised by Christmas! We call it “her time of the year” because for Bettina, Christmas lights her up as bright as any tree.

Being Bettina’s Dad: A role model for Bettina

Climbing out of my snow hole, I received a letter from home.  No mean feat as I was somewhere in the Arctic Circle and a month into a winter deployment with 3 Commando Brigade.  It was the news I had dreamed of from Joyce– we were going to have a baby!  I never doubted for… Read More ›

Steve and Bettina

Being Bettina’s Dad: When love is not enough to keep you Safe and Secure

For the first time I felt mortal, and I worried about Bettina’s future, realising I was only living in the now or at least in the next 6 months to a year for her. We started to discuss and we started to plan because now we realised that love would not always be enough.

Bettina has achieved her Blue Belt for sword work

Being Bettina’s Dad – Facing up to Adversity

Hanging out with Bettina as much as I can, I have learned from her how she faces adversity and I use these lessons when I face adversity in my work. I would like to share with you what I think are Bettina’s five lessons on how to face adversity.

Bettina and her handmade bird feeder

Being Bettina’s Dad: Bettina’s lessons in confidence

My youngest daughter, Bettina, shows me the way on so many areas of life, and working towards becoming more confident is something Bettina has been very successful with over the years.

Bettina and Steve at Whitby, throwing pebbles

Being Bettina’s Dad – Taking the time to be grateful and showing gratitude

As a family we have been coming to Whitby for the last 14 years, my life slows down for a week and I get lots of time to spend with Bettina. An emotion she clearly expresses to those around her is how ‘grateful’ she is for the things that come her way.

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